Life.... full of compromises
Life is full of compromises. Without compromising on something, we cannot live our lives. We cannot be stubborn. We should not be rigid. A strong wind can break the 'moringa' tree, but cannot affect the 'bulrush' (usually found on the river banks) which will bend and withstand the strong wind. So, wherever needed we should be like the bulrush and survive the onslaught. That is the secret of survival in life.
In any situation in life, we will be facing conflicting set of choices.We may have to choose the right options (the best possible), given the circumstances. That might not have been the ideal solution, but the 'best possible' one.
When I give my clothes for stitching to my tailor, who is good in his work, he always delays the delivery of the finished apparel. He keeps postponing his 'delivery promise' at least 5 or 6 times. I normally like things to be delivered as per 'promise'. Remember, he is very good in his workmanship. If I want to have my dresses properly stitched, I have to compromise on my being sticky on delivery promises.....!
This compromise formula comes very much into play when one chooses the 'life partner'. I am not talking about the 'fly-by-night' kind of marriages. As the terms states, it is the 'partner for life'. One cannot find all the attributes in one single individual. God has not produced even a single person in this world, that way. We look for so many 'qualities' especially in a 'would be bride'. A very fair skin (like what we see in 'models' in TV ads), extremely slim, attractive features (rivaling all the "Miss Worlds"), intelligent (an IQ, above that of Einstein), rich (slightly above Jeff Bezos). These are some of the qualities we expect in our search for the 'bride'. The irony is that the 'bridegroom' cannot be described in decent terms! How unfair! If the compromise formula is not applied here, no man can get married in his lifetime. We have to prioritize, and choose the quality which will suit our life.
Even during the (married) life, both husband and wife have to compromise on various day-to-day happenings. If we do not adjust, we can experience hell on the earth. Both have to put up with the idiosyncrasies of the other. And that's life....
We can find in various media that 'this' is good or 'that' is good for health. In another site, we may find that the very same things ('this' & 'that') are detrimental to our health. Here again, we need to compromise and choose the 'best' for us. Otherwise we may have to starve....
A colleague of mine in Maldives (where I worked) went to her native island (for holidays), which by comparison to Male' (the capital island), is very small. It retains its serene atmosphere due to lesser commercial activities. It is quite peaceful, clean and ideal for living. However, there are no good schools for her son's education and not many job openings. So, she had to compromise and settle in Male'. It is all due to consideration of priorities. That is life.....(full of compromises)!
In any situation in life, we will be facing conflicting set of choices.We may have to choose the right options (the best possible), given the circumstances. That might not have been the ideal solution, but the 'best possible' one.
When I give my clothes for stitching to my tailor, who is good in his work, he always delays the delivery of the finished apparel. He keeps postponing his 'delivery promise' at least 5 or 6 times. I normally like things to be delivered as per 'promise'. Remember, he is very good in his workmanship. If I want to have my dresses properly stitched, I have to compromise on my being sticky on delivery promises.....!
This compromise formula comes very much into play when one chooses the 'life partner'. I am not talking about the 'fly-by-night' kind of marriages. As the terms states, it is the 'partner for life'. One cannot find all the attributes in one single individual. God has not produced even a single person in this world, that way. We look for so many 'qualities' especially in a 'would be bride'. A very fair skin (like what we see in 'models' in TV ads), extremely slim, attractive features (rivaling all the "Miss Worlds"), intelligent (an IQ, above that of Einstein), rich (slightly above Jeff Bezos). These are some of the qualities we expect in our search for the 'bride'. The irony is that the 'bridegroom' cannot be described in decent terms! How unfair! If the compromise formula is not applied here, no man can get married in his lifetime. We have to prioritize, and choose the quality which will suit our life.
Even during the (married) life, both husband and wife have to compromise on various day-to-day happenings. If we do not adjust, we can experience hell on the earth. Both have to put up with the idiosyncrasies of the other. And that's life....
We can find in various media that 'this' is good or 'that' is good for health. In another site, we may find that the very same things ('this' & 'that') are detrimental to our health. Here again, we need to compromise and choose the 'best' for us. Otherwise we may have to starve....
A colleague of mine in Maldives (where I worked) went to her native island (for holidays), which by comparison to Male' (the capital island), is very small. It retains its serene atmosphere due to lesser commercial activities. It is quite peaceful, clean and ideal for living. However, there are no good schools for her son's education and not many job openings. So, she had to compromise and settle in Male'. It is all due to consideration of priorities. That is life.....(full of compromises)!
Ego is the biggest stumbing block in reaching compromises..If love takes over from ego, life will be wonderful and no need for compromises..!!
ReplyDeleteValid point. Ego succeeds most of the time. That is the pity.
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