Made for each other....OR.... Mad after each other.....?
Prelude : I am happy to upload this blog in commemoration of my 45 years of happy married life. Today I am entering the 46th anniversary with my adorable wife. It is a coincidence that this is my 45th blog. I thank everyone who has been reading my blogs. I upload my blogs every fortnight.
Marriages are made in heaven. Is it? Now-a-days, marriages (or marriage ideas) are made in offices, pubs, streets, bus shelters, parks, (even) schools etc.. You name a place, there, marriage proposals are done. There was a Tamil drama long back, titled "Marriage made in saloon". But I for one, believe that 'marriages are made in heaven'. Though it appears to take place in various places (mentioned above), the seed is sown in heaven. It is predetermined 'there'.
Marriage is an 'institution', which most of the present generation youngsters do not respect. They think marriage is a 'convenience'. They go further still and think there is no need for 'marriage'. You decide to live with somebody (any gender, for that matter!) and the other 'party' also has the same idea; Don't bother about anyone; Go ahead. This is the present culture! You don't get along with each other; split and go your own ways. It is that simple.... They don't think of the ramifications such arrangements cause. Some big shots in society go even further and say, they want to have children, but no marriage. What nonsense... Who is responsible for the child, born out of wedlock? How will be the emotional evolution of the child, when she/he grows up? What a callous attitude....?!
Are the 'married couples' made for each other? It depends solely on the part of the spouses. Each human being is different, depending on the 'upbringing', societal standing, economical status, emotional built..... So, naturally no one will be made for the other. But how to make the marriage work? By understanding the spouse fully, finding the positives and negatives (everyone has both) and accepting them unequivocally and love each other 'unconditionally'. If that is done, there will be complete compatibility and harmony in their married life. Both should take responsibility for everything in their life, after marriage. No 'blame game', please! Support each other, without any question. The marriage will work perfectly till time does them apart. Never treat your better-half as bitter-half....
But due to the lack of understanding and adjust-ability between the couple, we find that they are "mad after each other". They queue up in the family courts for divorce, before the smell of marriage fades away. We witness increasing number of couples applying for divorce. Looking at the alarming rate at which the divorce cases are filed, half the courts in India have to be converted as 'specialist courts' for divorces only!
Marriage councilors are on the increase, of late. Are we so dumb that our flaws and the reasons for incompatibility are to be pointed out by a councilor? Instead, we should sit across the table on a quiet 'dinner date' and munch over our lives. Think and talk about the good days we had. A few compromises here and there, and both sides can patch up wherever necessary. As long as the 'inherent love' for each other exists, anything else can be sorted out, for sure.....
Marriages are made in heaven. Is it? Now-a-days, marriages (or marriage ideas) are made in offices, pubs, streets, bus shelters, parks, (even) schools etc.. You name a place, there, marriage proposals are done. There was a Tamil drama long back, titled "Marriage made in saloon". But I for one, believe that 'marriages are made in heaven'. Though it appears to take place in various places (mentioned above), the seed is sown in heaven. It is predetermined 'there'.
Marriage is an 'institution', which most of the present generation youngsters do not respect. They think marriage is a 'convenience'. They go further still and think there is no need for 'marriage'. You decide to live with somebody (any gender, for that matter!) and the other 'party' also has the same idea; Don't bother about anyone; Go ahead. This is the present culture! You don't get along with each other; split and go your own ways. It is that simple.... They don't think of the ramifications such arrangements cause. Some big shots in society go even further and say, they want to have children, but no marriage. What nonsense... Who is responsible for the child, born out of wedlock? How will be the emotional evolution of the child, when she/he grows up? What a callous attitude....?!
Are the 'married couples' made for each other? It depends solely on the part of the spouses. Each human being is different, depending on the 'upbringing', societal standing, economical status, emotional built..... So, naturally no one will be made for the other. But how to make the marriage work? By understanding the spouse fully, finding the positives and negatives (everyone has both) and accepting them unequivocally and love each other 'unconditionally'. If that is done, there will be complete compatibility and harmony in their married life. Both should take responsibility for everything in their life, after marriage. No 'blame game', please! Support each other, without any question. The marriage will work perfectly till time does them apart. Never treat your better-half as bitter-half....
But due to the lack of understanding and adjust-ability between the couple, we find that they are "mad after each other". They queue up in the family courts for divorce, before the smell of marriage fades away. We witness increasing number of couples applying for divorce. Looking at the alarming rate at which the divorce cases are filed, half the courts in India have to be converted as 'specialist courts' for divorces only!
Marriage councilors are on the increase, of late. Are we so dumb that our flaws and the reasons for incompatibility are to be pointed out by a councilor? Instead, we should sit across the table on a quiet 'dinner date' and munch over our lives. Think and talk about the good days we had. A few compromises here and there, and both sides can patch up wherever necessary. As long as the 'inherent love' for each other exists, anything else can be sorted out, for sure.....
Happy marriage anniversary, mrs and mr Theri..All the very best.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much
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