How shameful is 'body-shaming'....?

Everyone in this world is created with unique features, by the almighty God. No one is the same - even the twins, after a few years look different and develop different features. Can anyone say that being tall is good, being 'fair-skinned' is better than 'dark-skinned' people, being lean is pretty, having better facial features are preferred to different looking features.....? The list goes on. Who is the connoisseur? Just nobody. No one has been given the right to pass on any judgement on anybody or ridicule somebody.

Imagine for a second that everyone in this world looks the same. Firstly, it will be difficult to identify different individuals and secondly, we will get bored of seeing the mirror image of us in everyone. Even the animals are created differently. They come in different colors, and with different features..... A white horse will not tease a black horse; a white cat will not ridicule a black cat.... This is the problem only with human beings.

It is very common that fat people are body-shamed easily. There could be several reasons for them being fat - may be hereditary, body-type, and other reasons. What is our problem in them being fat? Why should we body-shame them? If at all the fat people face any problem, it is for them to bear it or find a solution. It is none of our business. Some people (especially relatives and friends) will start giving them advice on 'how to reduce the weight'. The advices are many-fold - going to the gym, dieting, running, walking, medical treatment and so on. Did they ask you for your advice? It is better to leave them without any comment. In fact we should treat them as normal human beings, not different from us. If they ask you for your advice, if you know any plausible solution, you may offer. Otherwise, it is better to keep quiet.

The same is the case with people having deformities, be it in limbs, speaking ability (stammering), hearing disability or whatever. Normally people with stammering, face unwanted comments and ridicule from many of us. These people imitate the person with disability by speaking with a stammer, when speaking to him. Do we realize how much it would hurt him? Normally, we don't. For us, it is an enjoyment at the cost of his disability. This should be totally avoided. When speaking to such people, we should make sure that they don't feel their disability.

Another category of people who faces this ridicule and dirty looks from the passers-by are the people of the third gender. Was it their fault that they were born that way? They undergo a physiological change in their body and they only will know how it hurts them. Leave alone the society, the family rejects them and they are thrown in the streets, to fend for themselves. No one in the society respects them. Even if we are not in a position to help them, at least be compassionate and leave them alone, without passing bad comments and dirty looks.

By 'body-shaming' others, we shame ourselves. Even if we have been guilty of such acts in the past, please refrain from doing such things in future.

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